How do we become more positive? You need to think about how you think. When you think of something unpleasant. Stop! What is it you are saying to yourself in your mind. What pictures are you playing to yourself in your mind.

It is your head. You are in control of it. Play the pictures you want. Play the sound track you want. Say the words you want.

Either you are comfortable with your thoughts and actions or you are uncomfortable. Saying that emotions are positive or negative is just a way of talking about them.

If someone tells me I a being negative, then I picture this black hole into which I have put myself. I need to immediately recognize that I chose to go there. My response may be automatic but I am still doing it to myself.

If someone tells me I a being positive then I picture myself singing and dancing at the top of a hill. Just like Julie Andrews in The Sound of music.

An Unsuccessful Person lets fear stop them. A Successful Person works through the fear. Fear is a natural reaction to some situations and events. 

You feel successful when you are moving toward the goals you set for yourself. Letting fear stop you from making progress makes you feel less successful and less happy.

How you respond to a situation or event depends on your your choice of response the first time you had a similar experience. Take tying your shoes, for example. Do you stop and think about how you do it each time you tie them? The process has become so automatic that you are probably think about something else when you are tying your laces.

Here is a way to focus your mind on memories that make you feel happy and comfortable with yourself. Any moment when you feel comfortable, feel a sense of balance,of being in control is a happy moment.

Every evening remember one thing from today that you felt happy doing  or seeing in your mind. No matter how you feel about it now, write it down. Write down exactly what you saw and heard and felt.

Review your day. Ask yourself "What did I today that got me on step close to my goal. Oh, you forgot that you set a goal? You did when you told yourself that you want to become more positive in seven days.

Day 1.  Evening: Write down one (or more) positive memory from today.

           Review the memories by reading and feeling exactly how you felt in each 

           situation. Take some time doing this. Make yourself really feel what

           you felt.

Day 2. Morning: Review ALL the memories by reading and feeling exactly you

          felt in each  situation. Take some time doing this. Make yourself really

          feel what you felt.

           Evening: Write down your positive memory for today.

Day 3. Morning: Review ALL the memories by reading and feeling exactly how

           you felt in each  situation. Take some time doing this. Make yourself

           really feel what  you felt.

           Evening: Write down your positive memory from today.

Day 4 to Day 7.  Ok by now you have the idea.  Just keep on doing this until day 7. Maybe continue doing until you don't remember ever feeling negative or uncomfortable. What you are doing is building a history of happy moments. That is how happiness is made. Moment by moment. Feeling happy or positive is a habit. Something you do automatically. Keep building this library of happy memories and read them whenever you feel particularly stressed or emotionally uncomfortable.

Be thankful for all the moments you have. They have brought you to where you are now.

Happiness is having a history, a list, a library of memories that you can recall whenever you need to feel happy.