Your having one of those episodes. You know, when you say to yourself "I've had such an awful past, I am such an awful person, my friends treat me so badly,  I have no hope for the future, I'm doomed! I have to beat myself up or hurt myself to feel anything.  Oh!Woe is me!"

You know this melody well because you sing its bluesy tones so often.

Yes! It is awful how bad you can make yourself feel when you think about it.

But there is a glimmer of hope. One in which, you can find everything you want and deserve in life.

It is called Self-Inflicted Shock Therapy.

No! You won't have to connect any high-voltage cables to give yourself a large electrical shock that will fry your brains out.

That only comes later when you can't stop singing those blue songs because you've caused yourself serious damage by abusing hormones and chemical balance.

Starting Treatment

Begin by saying to yourself "Enough is enough!"

All this negative thinking just makes me angry with myself!

I'm not doomed. I'm not so badly done by. I'm not going to die because someone swore at me or looked at me the wrong way. I'm not an awful person. I'm not going to die because I can't have him or her.

Others are without food, others are without love, others are without shoes. Yet somehow they manage to survive.

So can I.

My past is just that, passed. I am here and now ready to plan for my future.

I am a person, a human being of value. I can love myself because I can stand on my own two feet. I can survive. I can adapt. I can be nice to my parents, my friends, my family. I can snap out of it.

I can be grateful for all I have. I can be grateful for all my abilities and skills and gifts. I bring value to this world by just being me. I create just by living.

No one else can make me think or behave a certain way.  I am the one inside my mind.

I  love myself as I am. I am confident in my abilities. 

I am responsible for how I think and feel and behave.

Just taking this decision to take charge of my life proves that I am capable and responsible.

I am here and now and can starting working on my real problems.

I fear no one and nothing, not even death, for I know I will go on as the energetic force I am.

I don't need to manufacture any more problems in my mind by imagining that others are treating me badly.

I don't need to imagine how others value me. I  value myself and their judgement will never touch that.

Life awaits me.

Now Plan To Solve Your Problems.

After you have had this talk with yourself, sit down and start planning your life.

If you are still at home with your parents and are going on to college, then that is your goal. Doing well at school is working your plan to move on to a career or vocation.

This is your priority. Everything else like socializing and working after school are all there to prepare you for your career. Once you head off to college most of your current friends will head off some where else.

If you are already in a career, if you chose wisely, you will be happy doing the work you want to be doing.

Now you should be setting new goals. Planning a family and moving up in your career. Or, you may be planning to start your own business.

At every stage in life, the only way you will be able to give meaning to it is to have a goal.

Ask yourself "On the day before I die, looking back over my life, what will I want to have accomplished?"

Make a list of all those accomplishments. These are your goals.

And each step you take toward each goal will build your confidence and skills and contribute to your success and happiness.

Action is the only way to accomplishment. No amount of intention will get you one step closer.

Time is your only asset. So each day use a little of that time to accomplish what you want.

Chris Widener has devised a simple equation.  "Action times Time equals Accomplishment."

Its worth stopping and thinking about.

What is the Alternative?

You could live the rest of your life depressed, unmotivated, anxious and fearful.

You can live to the last day before you die and look back and say "Oh well I really had good intentions. But, I never accomplished anything I wanted."

Too many young people see themselves going down that road, running to doctors for pills that will cure nothing, that will not solve one single problem.

Life isn't easy. Life isn't fair. Life is not handed to you on a silver platter. You have to earn your way. You become accomplished through your daily actions.

You can over-protect your children. You can give them too much. You can make all their decisions and mistakes for them.

You can wash their clothes and change their beds until they are thirty. But, that will not train them to be independent and capable adults.

You learn to be independent by taking responsibility and choosing how you think, how you feel and how you behave.

And, you contribute to the world by setting goals for yourself and acting on your plans.

Your accomplishments are the building blocks of our free society.

Go ahead! Take the Self-Inflicted Shock Therapy. It's worth it.