Discovering self does not mean being selfish. In fact, it is exactly the opposite.

Once you have discovered that your thoughts, negative and positive, influence how you behave, you gain control of your life, your thoughts, your feelings and your behaviour. You choose how you think. Your life is not controlled by random events.

Being responsible for your thoughts and behaviour, you realize that others are also responsible for their own behaviour even if they have not yet discovered that responsibility.

What does that mean to you?  Now, you are able to react (or respond if you prefer) in a more self-controlled manner toward others. You know to treat them with more empathy for the struggle they are going through. Discovering self is being more accepting of yourself and others.

We have nothing to fear but fear itself.  Fear is just how we choose to look at events for which there really is no need to fear. We fear meeting strangers, for example, but the reasons we give ourselves are just our imagination, our lack of self-confidence.

Self discovery is a journey that requires you to learn to accept yourself exactly as you are. Warts and all. You are a human being who faces the same problems as all other beings. You are born, you survive however you can, then you die. That is the facts of life.

You are here to experience all aspects of life. Be thankful for every breath, for every experience you have ever had, even the negative ones. Life is lived breath by breath. Be grateful for every aspect of life without which you would be able to experience feelings, love, anger, excitement or happiness.

While you are it, forgive those who you think may have offended you. After all, it is all in perception. You may believe they have offended, but their intention may have been something else. And, forgive yourself for all the human things that you have done that you are not proud of. We all make mistakes.

Learn from your mistakes and your successes. Accept the circumstances and move on.

Memories of the past are a terrible place to choose to live because you are giving up time living in the here and now. You can only live and breathe and be in the now.

If you never learn to accept yourself as you are, for the human being you are, for the living being you are, you will never be fully in control of yourself. You will always blame circumstances for your happiness, for your success or failure, for your wealth or lack of it.

Accepting that the world is as it is and that you cannot change it to suit your mind's expectations is a good beginning.

Learning to hear yourself think and accepting yourself as exactly the person you choose to be, will give you the power to conquer even your worst fears.  Learning that you only change yourself, your perception of the world will give you the most control over your life you have ever experienced.

Changing how you view the world will not change who you are. You will still be you, the wonderful life-loving being that you are. You will discover that you are strong, You will discover that the journey is everything. You will discover that even Death does not frighten you.

Accept the world and yourself.  Be grateful for every day and moment that you can experience. Forgive yourself and others for failing. Learn to monitor your thinking to control your mind.

Self discovery brings happiness to yourself and others because you are in control of your actions, feelings and thoughts.